First off, this is not going to be a “pity me” post.
It’s just about my experience with anxiety, and what has worked for me.
I’ve had it for as long as I can remember and have found different ways of dealing with it. It’s not like it’s a huge, crippling part of my life. It’s just always been there.
There have been events and moments in my life that have exasperated it, but I’ve never been sure where it came from.
What’s does anxiety feel like?
It can be a feeling of being extremely tired and exhausted. It can also feel like a spinning carnival ride (like everything’s spinning and you don’t know how to stop).
Personally, I find myself feeling really edgy and getting a lot of headaches.
At first, I didn’t know how to handle it very well.
Over the last three to four years, I have learned to manage and channel my anxiety.
Planning: You all know I LOVE planning and being organized. Most people have seen my giant, fit-my-whole-f*cking-life-in-it, planner. My planner has a full day schedule (like 7am-9pm), a to-do list, what’s due, notes, top to-do’s, and gratitude section. And that’s just for the daily pages. Yeah. Writing everything that I have to do down, and having it all in one place, helps me keep calm. It puts everything that needs to get done, for that day, right in front of me. This way, I won’t forget to do something important, while also not getting overwhelmed with just one giant to-do list.
I also have a big, weekly wall calendar. It’s just a simple, dry-erase wall sticker. It helps because I see a basic outline of my week and know what I have to do, as well as anything to look forward to.
Exercise: I always find at least three times in my week to exercise. Whether it’s going to the gym, hiking, doing exercises in my room, going to yoga, or anything else, I always find the time. Exercise makes me feel productive and relaxed, at the same time. I’m being productive by staying healthy and sweating out toxins. It also relaxes me because I don’t find myself thinking about stressful things, while exercising. It’s a time where I can just be in that moment.
Tip: meditation has also helped me a lot. It helps me center all of my thoughts and get myself together a little.
Being okay: I’m a perfectionist. I want everything to be perfect and I have to check it over 3848577592938 times before anything else happens. Over the years, I have learned that not everything has to be perfect and, sometimes, things will go wrong. I’ve had to learn to be okay with this. One of the ways I have learned to do this is by looking at the big picture.
For example, let’s say I missed a due date for an assignment. I get marked down 10 points for turning it in late. Now, while this sucks and I could spend time racking my brain on why I forgot to do the assignment on time, I force myself to look at the big picture. Is 10 points REALLY going to affect my overall grade that much? Probably not. So, if I get one bad grade, it’s not the end of the world. There will be other opportunities to make up that grade. Nothing is the be-all, end-all.
So yeah. That’s how I’ve learned to deal.
How about you guys? Do any of you have any magical ways of dealing with anxiety? Please share in the comments!
*Disclaimer: I am not a therapist. I do not know if any of what I do will work for anyone else. It’s just what worked for me.